Misdirected Desperation

As a single parent it can be extremely difficult dealing with all of the responsibilities of taking care of a household, children, and finances, etc. without the help of a spouse not to mention the loneliness of not having adult companionship. And contrary to what we may assume, studies have shown that the onslaught of social networking has actually isolated us even more, so if you add to that the sparse, cohesive network and fellowship of Israelites then life can sometimes get seemingly unbearable.  The weight of single parenthood can get very heavy and painful. Even if you work outside of the home, you still may not have the opportunity to socialize with other adults on a frequent basis in a safe, friendly and nurturing environment where you can feel comfortable venting and being comforted regarding the cares of your daily life by like-minded people who understand and share your struggle. So even if your children are old enough and articulate enough to hold a conversation with you, it's still not the same as having adult companionship. I know that some people's halakah is so qodesh and righteous that they never experience the considerable pain and loneliness of single parenthood but for those of us who are still human and haven't been spiritually translated even at our strongest an empty bed and a house too quiet after the children are in bed are reminders that The Father created us for relationships and despite laying prostrate before HIM for hours on end and studying Scripture for hours on end there is still the persistent nagging need to be held, spoken to tenderly and attentively and made to feel loved and wanted. Our children can take us for granted quite often and single parents constantly find themselves playing the role of both parents to some extent therefore the custodial parent is always the heavy and the disciplinarian and this in and of itself is a lonely and taxing responsibility. With all of that being said, is it any wonder that most single parents are thirsty to the point of creeping or indulging otherwise unhealthy forms of adult companionship? This thirstiness is actually misplaced desperation. The Most High desires for us to be desperate for HIM and sometimes that may mean laying out prostrate before HIM, other times it may mean journalling; it may mean ministry in the form of volunteering at a soup kitchen, homeless shelter, etc. or studying and reading Scripture. 

My prayer for the single parents of Israel as well as myself is that we will allow YAHUAH to transform our minds thereby changing our perspective and perception of single parenthood so that we can give our all to HIM while HE cultivates within us all that is needed to make us greater assets to HIS Kingdom and that includes preparing us for marriage, if that is indeed HIS will for us. But marriage is not priority neither is adult companionship. The priority is The Kingdom of The Most High and what HE has called us into existence to be.  We have been called into existence to be obedient worshipers who abandon the whole of our lives to HIM so that HE receives all of the glory and that includes allowing things such as our singlehood to run their course so that we can enjoy reaping the fruits of a harvest where we have sown seeds of love, contentment and obedience and not railed against HIM by subversively burning through relationships with the opposite sex in an attempt to search for the "right one" or cure loneliness with futile, empty and irresponsible out-of-covenant sex or doing other things that are counterproductive to our having a fulfilling relationship with The Father. YAHUAH, knows what we need, when we need it and how we need it. All you need to do is play your position and fall back to allow HIM all the room HE needs to have HIS way in our lives and in us. We can't have it both ways! It's going to be HIS will or our way and trust and believe because HE is omnipotent, omnipresent and omniscient, we should prefer HIS will EVERY TIME over our own way. Desiring YAH's will over our own way is a sign of spiritual maturity. It is a sign that we understand that we exist for HIS pleasure and for the benefit of HIS Kingdom, alone and that everything that is of no relevance, value or significance to HIS Kingdom or HIS divine will and purpose for our lives should have no place in us. We can't please HIM with a carnal mind and an unwillingness to accept HIS will. We know and trust that HE only has the best future planned for us. 

We live in a culture that idolizes the marriage ceremony and all of the accoutrement that the ceremony entails. It also lauds coupling while simultaneously demonizing Scriptural, heterosexual marriage and yet there are entire television series and movies about marriage. We also may personally witness people coupling up and getting engaged, betrothed and married. This can make us feel even lonelier. We may want to feel joy and happiness in watching others embark upon a life that we desire for ourselves but after a while we can start to feel as if YAH has forgotten about us. Rest assured that HE hasn't! HE heard you the first time you prayed. HE moved on your behalf the first time you fasted in obedience, even if you didn't see or realize it. But just remind yourself that ALL things occur in HIS excellent timing and not when we believe that they should occur.

Don't settle for Mr. or Ms. right-now! YAH's best for you is someone who loves HIM more than they love you; someone who will love and honor you and your children; someone who will value you and your children and see you for the asset that you are. Anything less than that is throwing your pearls to swine and a futile waste of time and energy. It is good for you to stay close (and get even closer) to YAH. HIS love is of greater richness and consistency than the greatest man or woman! The Father deserves our undivided attention. HE deserves a set-apart vessel that desires HIM first and foremost! We MUST prefer HIM above all else or we will never know what it is to live a life that honors HIM and provides joy and satisfaction because we have dared to obey and love HIM more than us wanting what we want...whatever it is our flesh wants (i.e., marriage, more children, etc.)

Personally, I struggle with feeling the reproach of single parenthood. I see people watching me with my kids with either disdain or pity. I hate not having the luxury to homeschool my children because I have to work. I hate the whole vetting process of mating up because I've been disappointed and hurt so many times during that process. A friend of mine told me that The Father was hiding me for someone special, a true son of YAH but sometimes I find myself questioning my value as a woman, my attractiveness. This life gets so immensely heavy and try as I may I still find myself, lately lonely and discouraged. I've always had issues with my physical appearance so I find myself seeking validation from people by what I wear and how I dress. It's painful and yet this is obviously a necessary process. Brothers and sisters of Israel, I am not too proud to petition you for prayer. As everything that I have written to encourage you, I know and am aware of and yet I am struggling with the day to day reality of this and pray to only please and honor my Father through this struggle. If I am to be desperate, I want to be desperate for HIM! If I am to be thirsty I want to hunger and thirst for HIS Word and for HIS presence! Shalom!

Mediocrity hates greatness, be great in YAHUSHA's name and let the haters, hate! Single Mother's Midrash exists to provide information and education pertaining to subjects of single parenthood, being single and chaste, empowerment through the word of YHUH and much more. Single Mother's Midrash is a publication of Natsarim Remnant Ministries. Natsarim Remnant Ministries is a Torah-observing, Commandment-keeping ministry whose mission is proclaim that YAHUSHA is Messiah and Savior of the world and the only begotten Son of YHUH, Creator of the Universe; He and Father, YHUH and the Ruach haQodesh are ONE. For more information regarding Natsarim Remnant Ministries feel free to call us at 614-522-9707 or email us at NatsarimRemnant@rocketmail.com. Be abundantly blessed in YAHUSHA's name.

Mission Accomplished

Poetry is my first love when it comes to writing and literature. This is some of my new stuff. I hope it blesses you. If it does, pray for me...if it doesn't pray for me. May YAHUAH, Most High Bless you!
Mission Accomplished by Koretta Allen - All Poetry.

I was on that ish
for about a minute
soothed by a sweet seduction from brown lips
sincere sounding tones that resonated in the deep recesses of my being
I took a leap into the abyss without seeing

I mean it was really about as relevant as Zamfir master of the pan flute
but I thought it was deep
I allowed this thing that should not have been
to seep down into the core of me
making a virtual whore of me

Mission accomplished

Yeah, I was on that ish
for about a minute
then I was shaken awake out of a dream state
I was ripe to be picked on
let the hell hounds loose
I was sicked on

But it spawned a sweet desperation for the real
I had to look beyond how flesh feels
heart feels
heart lies
tells me that my bitter existence will result
in a resolution
hence this reeling from the feeling that I can't shake him
and thus my only solution is to run

Mission accomplished

So I run but not away but to my Father's throne
In HIM I find my comfort
In HIM I find my home

Yeah, I got duped
I thought that brotha was mine
I thought he was fine
but I'm glad I didn't get played like a concubine...again

I thought I was a woman to wife but I got scammed not once...
but twice!

Ha!

Mission accomplished

I was on that ish
for about a minute
but it's over now
Back to life
Back to reality of a single bed
No wedding
No future with him
that dream is dead

My Father will provide
and I realize that I am the daughter of The King
and HIS mark on me yields more authority than a ring
HE removes my reproach and HE hides me for that one
that special son
who also bares HIS mark

Yeah, I was truly on that ish
for about a minute
but I wised up after I learned
You play with fire you get burned.
I can only be who YAH made me and when the time
is right my Boaz will come forth to claim me
until then I shall remain hidden
a treasure to be discovered and for the right man to open.

And A Net To Catch Me!

I need prayer
and a net to catch me
I need someone to fetch me
a bottle
of moscato
and another of that sweet red that goes to my head
it brings on sweet sleep
so that I can go to bed

I need love
and a net to catch me
someone please, go fetch me
Romans 8:28
and release me from this pain that I hate
YAHUAH, help me!
That I may repent and see that all my joy is in YOUR strength
and not in my flesh neither in he.

I need prayer and a net to catch me.
Father, be my net and please catch me before I fall

and waste it all on a promise and a dream that wasn't
what it seemed

Because I birthed these verses from pain.
It causes me to think so that I don't go insane.
The one I thought I loved and thought loved me
has become the bane of my existence
but my worth is found in Thee!

So I praise The Most High but still I ask why?
"Why was I so stupid?"
I fell for the okie doke and
watched everything go up in smoke...and mirrors
but YAH calls me nearer to a closer walk with HIM

I am committed to HIS anointed Ha Mashyach and HIS qodesh Shem.

Stick a fork in me
I'm done!
And I aint checking for them that say they know YOU, YAH
but have no fear of
YOU, YAH!
Otherwise they wouldn't treat your daughters like some common heifer, YAH!
I know YOU hear me YAH!
And gladly I submit, YOU are the net that catches me and to YOUR Will I shall commit.
There is no other way
every other help has failed me but YAH, YOU have remained the same, YOU are The Net that has held me!

Mediocrity hates greatness, be great in YAHUSHA's name and let the haters, hate!Single Mother's Midrash exists to provide information and education pertaining to subjects of single parenthood, being single and chaste, empowerment through the word of YHUH and much more. Single Mother's Midrash is a publication of Natsarim Remnant Ministries. Natsarim Remnant Ministries is a Torah-observing, Commandment-keeping ministry whose mission is proclaim that YAHUSHA is Messiah and Savior of the world and the only begotten Son of YHUH, Creator of the Universe; He and Father, YHUH and the Ruach haQodesh are ONE. For more information regarding Natsarim Remnant Ministries feel free to call us at 614-522-9707 or email us at NatsarimRemnant@rocketmail.com. Be abundantly blessed in YAHUSHA's name.

Several Reasons to Live a Successfully Chaste Life

The weight of being a single parent can be quite a heavy load to carry.  The world and those who are carnally minded would have you believe that it is somehow excusable and justified to have a sexual arrangement of some kind to relieve stress and to supposedly help with a myriad of issues from loneliness to acne. Such arrangements are not an option for the Israelite. I am aware that there is doctrine circulating that states that as long as you are monogamously, sexually involved with a person of the opposite sex (of course) that intercourse in an of itself makes you married to that person. However the marriage covenant is deeper than sexual intercourse and should be respected as such. Chastity is by no means an easy thing to accomplish as it requires both physical and mental refraining from indulging in matters of a sexual nature and short of adoption, if you conceived your children via sexual intercourse and now find yourself without a mate, keeping your ear-gates, eye-gates and mind clear of sexual thoughts and activities is a sometimes seemingly impossible feat. Babylon's oversexed philosophies and habits always seem to make their way inside of our homes, whether it is via media or your children's exposure to the outside world. But, to quote my favorite Scripture, Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life (Proverbs 4:23). There are many, many reasons to remain chaste as a single person in this wicked age and the reasons to be chaste as a single parent are actually compounded. So from one single parent to another here are at least 7 reasons to remain chaste:

1. If no one else seems to know that you creeping and gettin' it on, trust and believe The Most High knows and HE is NOT happy with you or your sin. Is getting broke off more important than your halakah? Seriously? You'd risk eternal damnation and being at odds with The Most High over a piece of tail? If so, your priorities are way out of wack and you may be able to perpetuate the ruse for a while but trust me when I tell you, you'll get all the rope you need to hang yourself.

2. Ducking and dodging your children or putting them off on "babysitters" to rendevous with a lover is not a good look. In fact, it is super trife! Not to mention bringing mr. or ms. so-in-so or fake "uncles" and "aunts" around your kids for your sexual escapades is setting a HORRIBLE example for your children. How do you expect your children to have a healthy concept of the marriage covenant including sex inside of marriage if you are creeping? Also understand that your children are not stupid, in fact most children who are being raised in Torah are actually quite perceptive and intuitive. So if you think you're being slick, trust me, you're not! That chicken will come back home to roost on you one day and when it does you will have to eat the fruit of your deception. That could be why your child is acting out. You are teaching them one thing and living another and not even your babies think that's cool!

3. The obvious to a single parent...a baby out of wedlock! Duh! Even if you are a single parent due to divorce or loss of a spouse in death, the last thing you need is another child conceived outside of a marriage covenant! And for those already single parents because of bad choices and decisions made in our pasts, come on now... you already know! Dads: Aren't you tired of paying out child support and not having your babies under one roof? Moms: Aren't you already weighted down enough with the child(ren) you already have? Let's not be animalistic and think with our genitalia. There are very real consequences to sex outside of covenant. The child produced maybe a blessing but the drama that ensues not to mention the confusion among your other children is simply unnecessary. It can also wreck your finances and compromise any respect that those who thought you were an upright Israelite might have for you. By the way, that includes the respect of your children! And sacrificing children to Molech (abortion) is only compounding your troubles and giving the enemy more ammunition to totally destroy you and your family in every respect. Even if no one else finds out, you'll always be haunted with the memory of that child.

4. Sex outside of covenant leaves you vulnerable to demonic possession. There is a reason why witches, etc engage in what's known as sex magic rituals. Sex outside of covenant perpetuates a oneness with unclean spirits and is even said to open up portals in the spirit realm for demonic spirits to enter. You may think you know EVERYTHING about your sex buddy/partner/hook up/fwb but know this, if you are not in a set apart marriage covenant and that person has the ability to lay with this one and that one then you are by proxy laying with this one and that one as well! Which is not only nasty but spiritually careless! When you have sex, your physical and spiritual man is involved in that act and you may be able to keep the physical man from becoming infected with disease but your spirit man is going to be attacked and assaulted by whatever foul spirit your lover has passed onto you via the act of intercourse. This is how people end up indulging spirits of perversion and even sexual abominations before they even realize just how far they have slipped and fallen away.

5. STDs!!!! Why would you ever risk your life and health for sex? If you are doing so, this is symptomatic of a greater problem that you need YAH to deliver you from before you truly self-destruct! There are MANY, MANY STDs (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). Some will maim and disfigure you, some will take away your fertility while others will sentence you to a slow and painful demise. Some of the STDs that we know of have actually mutated and have become resistant to antibiotics and other treatments. Hepatitis B, genital herpes, Human Papilloma Virus (HPV), and the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) and AIDS are just a few of the incurable STDs but in recent years there have been STD hybrids and strains; combinations of HIV and gonorrhea; chlamydia and gonorrhea and even a strain of gonorrhea called "super gonorrhea" which is antibiotic resistant. Also consider that there are some people who know that they are infected with such diseases but don't mind "sharing". Misery loves company not you! And if you think you are cool because you only indulge in oral sex, think again! Certain brain cancers, oral and throat cancers have been linked to oral copulation via the spread of the Human Papilloma Virus. There is no such thing as "safe sex" either. Condoms are not a "fail safe" method as this wicked culture would have you believe in fact HPV is still commonly spread among condom users and many people actually have latex allergies which only complicates matters. (For more on this subject Condoms Don't Work - Epidemic of sexual diseases; media strangely silent and Prolife - The Truth About Condoms)


6. The hypocrisy of sex outside of the marriage covenant. For an Israelite, who says that they are walking in truth to willingly violate YAHUAH's commandments and willingly yield the temple of their body to a sexual act is actually setting yourself up for a seared conscience and a reprobate mind. Because it's not that you don't know, it's that you don't care enough to yield the whole of your life as worship unto The Most High and that includes your body! Your very existence is for HIS pleasure and HIS pleasure alone so if you choose to violate that fact and trespass The Law, all the Truth you know for a few minutes of pleasure then YHUH is not the priority in your life that you publicly profess. Your body is meant to be the Temple of the Ruach haQodesh how do you then justify a union with some chick or dude who doesn't even think enough of you to be married to you and probably doesn't even serve the same ALAHYM that you serve. They could care less about YAHUAH's Word and you allow them to trample HIS temple and seduce you into the same diabolical and lascivious behavior against The Most High and HIS kingdom. Where is your loyalty? And even if you are having the thoughts and refuse to bring them captive, you are setting yourself up to bring those thoughts into fruition. And for what? It's all leading to death!

7. Soul ties, the unholy kind...
As I have mentioned in the other points, you are making yourself physically and spiritually vulnerable to a person who obviously has no respect for you, your children or The Most High whom you claim to love and serve. Soul ties of this kind are so destructive and deceptive as they compel you to feel as if you truly love this person and this person loves you. It's only the chemical result of a sexual union that should've never taken place! But it is also the spiritual fruit of a sexual union that violates Torah and your relationship with YHUH, Most High. Soul ties take so much time and energy to shake and be delivered from and they can erroneously alter the course of your life because it feels like love, real love! So you end up romanticizing an aberrant relationship that is nothing more than an act of rebellion against YHUH. The soul tie leads to idolatry as you will apprise your relationship with your sex partner over your relationship with YHUH you may even succeed in luring or being lured into marriage with this person in an attempt to legitimize something warped and perverted from the jump and then be left to wonder why it didn't work. Sadly enough, if it is The Most High's will for you to marry, you could miss out on the right one because you are emotionally tethered to the wrong one. The right one will come along and because he or she doesn't possess that certain something that caused you to idolize your soul tie, you'll reject them because your heart and soul has deceived you into believing that the soul tie is your "soulmate" or "one true love" and that no one else is good enough for you but them! How sad! There is nothing more dangerous than a person who is self-deceived. 


If you ain't know, sex ain't nothing to play with and neither is YAH, Almighty! If any of this is you, then you truly need to REPENT so that you can be delivered, healed and truly transformed by the renewing of your mind. You need to come out of the Babylonian concept of love and marriage that often leads to the sexual trespass of fornication and whoredom. Babylon teaches that you only need to "be in love" with someone to have sex with them and if you can't be with the one you love, "love the one you're with".  This kind of mindset is against Torah and will set you up for seeking and accepting rebellion in your own life. If you are even indulging in pornography and/or masterbation, you have a spirit of perversion and you need to REPENT, be healed and delivered as sex with one's own self is not anything but yielding the members of your body for an unclean, sexual act that seems harmless but will only manifest in immense spiritual degradation.  YHUH deserves and desires a clean and qodesh temple, why would you try to give HIM anything less? Seek YHUH and HIS divine will for your life as HE is the only One who can satisfy well beyond a few minutes and into an entire lifetime, if you will allow HIM to. HE knows what we need and when we need it but if you are still trying to pacify flesh, how will you truly know what you need enough to accept and receive your blessing. You have been called into The Truth for a reason and ha Shatan hates it and would love nothing more than to destroy you by distorting your perception of The Truth and reality. The reality is, when you willingly sin against YHUH, life will not be a pleasant place for you, in fact it can become hell on earth! If YAHUSHA came to give us life and that more abundantly then why would you dare settle for junk? If you are a child of The Most High, then it's time to live like it and that includes guarding against carnal influences of every kind and that may include separating from friends who are perpetrating a fraud themselves to refraining from the consumption of various forms of media (movies, music, tv, internet, etc.) that may arouse emotions and validate mindsets that are inconsistent with Torah. It is also important to realize that most mainstream media is commonly laced with sexual subliminals to purposely arouse a person sexually without them realizing that the media was responsible for the arousal. YHUH wants you to know HIM better but you can't get to HIM for the lust in your heart. Finally, as parents we are stewards and guardians of our children's hearts and minds and when we so blatantly allow flesh to rule us so that we compromise our witness and our example to them and the world at large then we should expect the repercussions to be severe! Let our passion be for YHUH and HIM alone so that HE can fulfill us in every way that matters to The Kingdom and for all eternity! HalaluYAH!!!

Scriptural References:
Leviticus 20; Genesis 38:9-10
 James 1; Hosea 10:12-13; Galatians 6:6-9; Matthew 5; Ephesians 5; I Thessalonians 4; I Peter 4; Romans 6; Titus 2; Colossians 3; I Corinthians 6:9-20

Other References:

Know The Difference Between Chastity vs. Abstinence

Oral sex now main cause of oral cancer: Who faces biggest risk?

BBC Three documentary on oral sex and cancer

Demonic Possession via Sex 

Occult Sex Magic Ritual 

Resistant Strain of Gonorrhea

‘Super’ strain of drug-resistant gonorrhea concerns U.S. officials 

Sex Magick Rituals

Revealed: Oral sex is ‘bigger cause of throat cancer than tobacco’

 

Mediocrity hates greatness, be great in YAHUSHA's name and let the haters, hate! Single Mother's Midrash exists to provide information and education pertaining to subjects of single parenthood, being single and chaste, empowerment through the word of YAHUAH and much more. Single Mother's Midrash is a publication of Natsarim Remnant Ministries. Natsarim Remnant Ministries is a Torah-observing, Commandment-keeping ministry whose mission is proclaim that YAHUSHA is Messiah and Savior of the world and the only begotten Son of YAHUAH, Creator of the Universe; He and Father, YAHUAH and the Ruach haQodesh are ONE. For more information regarding Natsarim Remnant Ministries feel free to call us at 614-522-9707 or email us at NatsarimRemnant@rocketmail.com. Be abundantly blessed in YAHUSHA's name.